These sort of antics (heavy toddler in the baby toy) are mild fare around here…
Most of this week I walked around with a seriously bad attitude. First of all, when I wake up in the morning, my brain literally hurts. I think I should really be going to bed around 9pm, not 10:30pm. I’ll spare you the whining about why I need so much sleep!
I basically have been “waking up on the wrong side of the bed” and staying disgruntled and feeling sorry for myself all day long.
Until Wednesday night.
I was pouring out my tale of woe to Alan, who had scored zero bonus points that night by working very late, when he said something really ridiculously simple that spun my frown upside down!
He said, “Tell me your top 5 things that you’re unhappy with right now.”
I rattled off 5 of my little worries, and then Alan replied, “Now let’s look at each one and see what’s causing them.”
1. My house is always messy–toys in the floor–unfinished puzzles on tables–dirty socks in the floor—library books all over the coffee table–kids’ jackets lying about–and on and on– It’s embarrassing. If I kept it in perfect condition, I would have to stay up super late, never blog, and fuss at everyone all day long to clean up their stuff. I don’t like nagging people.
Alan said: “Your house is messy because of two things, and I don’t know which is worse: because your house is so big or because you have so many beautiful, healthy boys here.”
Now, at first, a small part of me thought, “Yeah but…” but then I quickly felt silly and grateful instead.
I do know that being given four boys is a serious blessing, and I’m so thankful we have this big house to put us all in!
I don’t remember all 5 of my complaints, nor do I wish to share all 5, but let me share two more to really get my point across:
2. I want to do The Great Clean Out so bad. I want to go through this whole house and just banish every single item we do not need, and I want everything to be labeled and organized. No matter how hard I try, it seems like I just get stuck doing laundry, dishes, and cooking! I’ll never get this de-cluttering done!!!
Alan’s response: “So you have goals, and they’re not happening as fast as you’d like, but at least you have goals. You have things you would like to do and accomplish, something to work towards.”
Oh…..also a blessing….
3. I wasn’t about to say it, but for #5 Alan said, “You hate my job.”
Okay, in my defense, Alan’s job changes every year or so, so there have been respites where it’s not so stressful, but most of the time he has a stressful job with long hours, or even worse, it takes him out of the country all together.
So yes, sometimes I hate Alan’s job.
……BUT Alan said, “My job gives us food on the table, clothes on our back, and lets us do all these things we like to do.”
Yes, he is right, and great medical benefits too.
Sometimes I hate it when Alan is right, but this time I was thankful that he was. I suddenly felt positively giddy. I really did.
What a great life we have! It may not be perfect, but by golly it’s our life, and I’d better enjoy it RIGHT NOW. It’ll be over very soon, and I’d hate to look back and wonder why I spent the whole thing grumpy and striving for someone else’s idea of perfection.
The last two days have been so much fun. I’m just as happy as can be, and some of my friends have said some really nice things to me too, which made me feel even happier. My smile is back, and it is here to stay.
Oh, how I love my life–whining toddlers, achy brain, dirty socks and all!!!! I have got to stop focusing on that and focus on this:
- brothers that are actually friends
- children that help with the baby
- the sweetest little baby I can imagine
- oh-so-adorable Daniel
- Alan–oh!–I still get excited when he calls me!
- pretty weather days!
- having friends that I can call on
- Disney’s Frozen (hehehe)
That’s not even half of it. I have no right to ever complain again.