Life gets really fun once you get over yourself.

A peacock, who sits on his feathers, is just another turkey.

A peacock, who sits on his feathers, is just another turkey.

Life is so much more fun when you quit worrying about what others think of you. It’s not about “me” anyway.

Life gets really fun once you get over yourself

The other week I sang a solo at church. It used to make me ridiculously nervous.

Why does it make us nervous to do something we love in front of other people?

Because there are people! And they are watching! And what if your hair is messed up, or there’s lipstick on your teeth, or you miss a note?

But what if you don’t? What if you just stomp on all of those thoughts, embrace the very soul inside yourself, and just do it!

That’s what I did the other week. I had all these doctor appointments and mystery health problems hanging over my head, and something about it all pushed me over that selfish ledge that has eluded me. I managed to hop that fence, you know, the one that stands between caring and not caring about what anyone else will say.

Plop! There I was on the other side of that fence, and it felt amazing! I stood there, it was the most empowering thing to just not worry, and I sang my heart out to Jesus, just as if I were in my very own shower.

I was not nervous because it wasn’t about me anymore.

Who cares if someone out there chuckles about me? Good. Glad they got a laugh. Serving isn’t about me. It’s about giving what I have.

Have fun with life!

Have fun with life!

Ha! I bet some of you wonder why I’m always sharing my crazy crap on the internet.

It’s worth it, y’all. Do what you love, and shamelessly share it. It may even turn into income for you. I turn away work now all the time because I’m still too busy with all of my children to take on outside work, but I’m still here, writing and sharing, maintaining what I enjoy. Income opportunities can be taken care of later, when I have time for that.


I believe in not putting pressure on yourself to “have it all.” Maybe you can have it all throughout your lifetime, but why stress yourself out going for all of it at once? Where’s the fun in that?

I wish I could go back to the sweet, timid, 23-year-old me. I would tell her, “Who cares if you don’t have a job and don’t know what you want to be? You’re happy being a wife and cooking and keeping house. Master that, and don’t worry about what anyone else says. There will be so much time to work a career and raise children in due time.”

Life is too short to impress people who won’t be impressed anyway.

I’m going to spend this weekend praising and thanking God for this beautiful life that I have been given. We are going to hang out as a family, going to birthday parties and basketball games. I’ll probably eat and talk too much and accomplish precious little. The kids will be loud. John David will follow me around. People will always be asking me, “What about dinner?” It will be glorious.

Life get so much more fun once you get over yourself.


For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.  Galatians 1:10

Romans 12:6-8 



We all have different gifts, each of which came because of the grace God gave us. The person who has the gift of prophecy should use that gift in agreement with the faith. 7 Anyone who has the gift of serving should serve. Anyone who has the gift of teaching should teach. 8 Whoever has the gift of encouraging others should encourage. Whoever has the gift of giving to others should give freely. Anyone who has the gift of being a leader should try hard when he leads. Whoever has the gift of showing mercy to others should do so with joy.


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  • Love this one!! Good for you for getting out there and doing the things you love 🙂
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  • This is so perfect. I just wrote a blog post about being true to myself and learning what I can handle. I’m not someone who can bring in an income and be a stay-at-home mom. I love your perspective that the income can come later when you have time for that. So great 🙂 Sometimes we do just need to get over ourselves. This has been a recent revelation for me.

  • Jen

    Go April! Go April! Keep sharing your happy, crazy life! You have such a powerful message and I love hearinf it.
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  • Love! I share many of your thoughts! I was just thinking about needing to get over myself too – you know, insecurities and fears and the need to look like I have it together. Ha! Such a fantasy that is! Keep singing and choosing to be grateful for the life you have been given!

  • KT

    That’s one of the good things about getting older… you care less and less what people think. I loved this post. I think I’ll be smiling for the rest of the day!
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  • Pam

    Hi April!
    I discovered you next to me at the Weekend Whispers linkup! Absolutely loved your post! You are so right! I am much older than you and still wish I had learned all that at 23!!!

    Enjoy every minute of this season because it will be over in a flash! I didn’t work when our two children were small and I never regretted it! There was a lot of lot beyond that…..time to write as a stringer for a local paper for three years, time to teach a special education junior high class for 15, go back to graduate school, and be a clinical counselor and marriage and family therapist for 25 years before retiring a year and a half ago. Now I am enjoying the new adventure of blogging while I savor books and time with children and grandchildren!

    Blessings on your day from frigid OH!

  • Aww great post. I always worried a lot more when I was younger. I try not to let the nerves get the better of me now 🙂