Why Is It a Good Idea to Pay Your Kids for Chores?


Lately, I’ve started a system where each of our boys has a couple of new chores he must do each day. Yes, even the 4-year-old. I instituted this because I actually cannot keep up with the housekeeping all myself anyway.

I pay them a quarter for each of those jobs, plus I give them extra coins when they exhibit a wonderful attitude.

I’m able to pay them on the spot because I have a big juice jug full of change.

This has been working extremely well for us. Though yes, I always inspect their work, and make them fix things they’ve skipped over, like little Lego men peeking out from under the sofa.

 

Killing bugs for mom also counts as a chore. The 3 of them teamed up to kill the cicada under that stack of books! That particular job was free of charge. Ha!

 

Today I have asked Josh Wilson, of FaithFamilyFinance.com, to fill us in on why paying children for chores is a MARVELOUS idea, not just for us, but for our kids too….

 

Why Is It a Good Idea to Pay Your Kids for Chores?

One financial decision you will need to make with your children is if you should pay your children to do chores. There are several different reasons why this is a good idea. For starters, they can learn valuable life lessons. If you are on the fence about paying your children for chores, read more to find out why it can be a good idea.

Adults Work for Money

Adults work to earn money because they have bills to pay. Paying children for chores teaches them the value of work. They can learn about the incentive of working harder to earn more money. Just as you don’t get paid if you don’t work, you have the option not to pay your child if they don’t complete their chores on schedule.

Until your children are old enough to get a part-time job, paying your children for chores can be a good way to allow your children to work for a goal instead of simply being given everything they want.

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Chores Teach Commitment

Chores can consist of daily, weekly, and monthly tasks. Even if you decide not to pay your child for some everyday chores, money is a strong incentive to remain committed for additional chores. Your children can establish a work ethic early on.

Offering to pay your child for optional tasks that you don’t necessarily have to do is a good starting place. By not paying your child for every single chore they complete, you can reward them for their efforts while avoiding the entitlement spirit of thinking they “must” get paid for every chore or they won’t do it.

Chores Can Instill Entrepreneurship

Depending on your child’s personality, paying for chores can instill a level of entrepreneurship. By realizing they can make money by providing a solution to a need, completing chores in this case, they may decide to pursue their own side hustle as they grow older.

For example, if you pay them to mow the lawn, they might ask your neighbors to mow their lawns for cash. During the winter, they might offer to shovel driveways and sidewalks for extra cash. If you only pay them an allowance for not doing chores, they might miss out on these additional money-making opportunities.

Paying for Chores Establishes Expectations

As the parent, you can set the expectations for when your children will be paid for their chores. If your children don’t do it right the first time, have them redo the task to your satisfaction. Chores can be an excellent opportunity to learn attention to detail and working efficiently to maximize their earning potential.

Remember to consider your child’s age and experience when setting expectations. Just as there is a learning curve when you start a new job, your children will need to master new skills as well. As they mature, you can increase your expectations and maybe even give them a raise as well.

Chores Can Encourage Communication

Communication is a two-way street in every relationship. Paying for chores can teach your children communication skills that can benefit them in the professional world. On payday, you can review your child’s performance and encourage them or tell them how they can improve.

Your child can also improve their communication skills because they will learn how to accept feedback, good and bad, from their superiors. Chores can also teach negotiation. Your child might offer to perform additional tasks if they are trying to increase their income.

Children Can Learn Money Management Skills

Earning money allows children the opportunity to learn the value of saving money for future purchases and accomplishing other financial goals. If you offer them additional money for completing extra tasks, your children can have an additional incentive to work hard to achieve their goals sooner.

In addition to paying your children for chores, you can also teach them budgeting and banking. Instead of just giving them money and letting them go on a spending spree, you can have them divide their paycheck into saving, spending, and giving.

For example, you can help your kids open up a savings account and they can watch as their interest grows. Each month opens the doors for a new learning experience, and even earnings for your children. You should likely use an online account with low minimums and fees to help you children keep more of their money. My children use Capital One which has an account created just for them. This will prepare them for adulthood when a portion of each paycheck goes to taxes and living expenses.

Summary

Paying children for chores is one of the most debated topics about parenting. While no parent is required to pay for chores, doing so can teach your child valuable life lessons. If you decide to pay your child, remember that you don’t have to pay them for every single chore, and you can also base the payment on their performance.

 

 

Josh Wilson is the owner of a start-up personal finance blog, Family Faith Finance. Check out his blog and learn more about his journey through life.

 

 

Cleaning Chores For Kids, By Age

Cleaning Chores For Kids, By Age

 

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Hello, friends! April is resting a powerful case of tendonitis, so Edna Thompson, of the United Kingdom, is sharing tips with us on age appropriate chores for kids today.

Everybody knows that it is not an easy task to maintain a clean and organized home with kids around. But not necessarily! Try including your kids in the cleaning and organizing process. Let them help you clean the mess they make. Of course, depending on how old your child is, there are different chores they can do. But even the younger ones can be put to work. Give them easy to do tasks turned into a game. This way they will be engaged, and instead of making a mess, they will be fixing it.

Here are some simple tasks, categorised by age groups and rooms that you can give to your children. But keep in mind that; of course, this can be adjusted any way you want because every child matures differently.

 

And another very important thing to remember is to give them one task to do at a time, especially the younger ones. Give them one chore to do, wait for it to be finished, and then give the next one. The younger the child, the more supervision of course, so never leave them alone and always go and check their work.

But also keep in mind that you should not be fixing their work in front of them.

And the most important thing is to make it like a fun exercise and enjoy the time spend with your child.

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Here are a few chores you could give them to do by age:

2-4

  • Tell them to clean in their room, give them different coloured bins and tell them to sort scattered toys in the bins by colour
  • Put dirty clothes in the laundry hamper
  • Put other things like books, glasses, clothes back in their places

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  • Make their bed
  • Water easy to reach house plants (with supervision of course)
  • Feed and give water to pets, if you have any
  • Wipe the table
  • Sort clean silverware
  • Help set the table

6-7

  • Dust the furniture
  • Use hand-held vacuum
  • Sweep the floor
  • Empty dishwasher
  • Put away clean dishes
  • Fold their washed clothes

8-9

  • Rake leaves
  • Load dishwasher
  • Clean after a meal
  • Vacuum
  • Collect and fold clean laundry
  • Collect and take out trash

10-11

  • Mow the lawn
  • Prepare easy snacks
  • Saw
  • Clean counter tops
  • Rearrange pantry

12 and up

  • Wash windows
  • Mop floors
  • Paint walls
  • Shop for groceries with a list
  • Iron clothes
  • Even watch younger kids

 

Of course you know what your child can and cannot do, so you can adjust this in a way that is better for your child. This is just for orientation, but mama knows best. 

Pick a cleaning song and sing and dance while you clean. Make a competition between your children, like who can organize and clean their room faster.

The goal of having your kids helping you to clean the house is with the idea that they learn how things should be done by helping you at first. When they get older they can do them by themselves. Plus you will be spending some time together and doing something useful while having fun with them.

 

list of cleaning chores for kids by ageThe article is written by Edna Thomson. She runs a small company called Notting Hill TenancyCleaners

Gardening Day

LARGE FAMILY LOGISTICS book review
How cute is my most willing little helper!?

  I have mentioned before that my favorite parenting book is Large Family Logistics.

Two things I like most about this book:

 

1.)  It serves as a great reminder of the need to involve the children in chores.  It’s so easy to forget to do that, and there is literally more work at this job than I can do myself.

 

I actually had to remind the boys of that today at chore time.

 

“Joshua (he’s our whiner of the day), do you remember this week how you ran out of all your favorite pants to wear and how that made you feel?”

 

Joshua nodded pitifully, and I said, “Well, that’s what happens when no one helps me with the chores.”

 

Caleb and Daniel both dutifully did their chores with quickness and no complaining, so I of course also made sure I praised them for this, where today’s whiner could hear me.

 

I learned that in my short teacher’s training that I did in Texas:  the importance of praising the children doing the right thing, and you will quickly see the other children trying to follow suit.  It WORKS!

 

Now I do say TODAY’S whiner, b/c they each take turns with their whining.

 

Once Joshua calmed down, each time I gave him a task, he seemed to almost enjoy his job.  The hard part was getting past the fuss he put up.  So my goal for this week is to work Joshua well and get him past this whining and complaining problem.

 

You know, God doesn’t like whiners and complainers either.  Just think about how he handled those murmuring Israelites, wandering in the desert!

 

 

#2. The other thing I like so much about that book is the concept of assigning major tasks to each day.

 

Monday:  Laundry Day.  Obviously, in a ‘large’ family, you have to do 1-2 loads a day anyway, but laundry day helps you catch up on the laundry you’re behind on.

 

Tuesday:  Kitchen Day.  Extra cleaning and cooking in the kitchen

 

Wednesday:  Office Day:  filing, organizing office space, etc.

 

Thursday:  Errand Day:  the day for appointments, shopping, and various errands.

 

Friday:  Cleaning Day:  You still do basic chores like tidying up, dishes, and laundry everyday.  But cleaning day is when the vacuum and dust rag get used all over the house.

 

Saturday:  Gardening Day:  love this day, but still feel guilty about neglecting the mess in Alan’s office that needs to be addressed.

 

“You have no office,” you say?  Yes, you’re right.  We don’t even have a desk, so Alan has turned my dining room into his office, and he is constantly bringing in papers galore and leaving them on the very decorative buffet, you know, right where everyone who enters our house can see.

 

I have GOT to find a place to set up a desk for him before I go batty.  I already made him a huge drawer for all that stuff, and yet it’s all still on top of the buffet.    Therefore, no matter how much I straighten the house still looks messy.

 

Another goal for this week:  find solution to the Alan home office problem.

 

Today’s Gardening Day Fun:

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I just added those hanging ferns a couple weeks ago.  And don’t you just love azalea season!?

 

This corner of our yard desperately needs some decorative plants, so I bought these three azalea bushes.  Now if I could just get Alan home during a daylight hour so he could help me dig the holes for them!  We don’t even own a shovel, so it’s not easy.  I dug half a hole today with a trowel.  I made Joshua help.

 

 

 

I think the concrete and the storage building got the most water, but the experience that he had from it was right on target.  : )

That was the most productive hour of our day.  Now it’s time for us to go to Joshua’s baseball game, followed by me taking the boys to a birthday party, while Alan studies for the Sunday school lesson he has to teach tomorrow.

   …..By the way, we bought a boat…..and yet we’re not sure when we’ll ever have time to actually use the boat.  Does life ever slow down?  We could really use a slow down!  I’ve kind of hurt myself a little, carrying Daniel around so much and just doing my job.  Therefore, I have come to a very unpleasant conclusion that it’s time for me to be more careful with this giant belly condition that I have and train Daniel to walk more.
    We’re still praying for all our family members in time of distress.  We love you!