“Are you so happy, Mom?”
John David asks me one question every single day.
“Mom, are you so happy? I just want you be happy, Mom.”
If I cry, he can’t take it. “No, Mom! I just want you be happy!”
If I get stressed and start rushing around, “Mom, I just want you be happy!”
If he’s in trouble for something, well, if John David gets in trouble for something he does that thing that little kids do that will melt your heart. He sticks out that bottom lip, his face scrunches up, and he cries, and then he says, “I just want you be happy!”
Apparently, it is exceedingly important to this sweet baby that I be happy…..ALL the time.….And that, of course, is pretty much impossible. But I try my best.
Even when JD goes to the potty, I have to be happy. I’m back there wiping his bottom, and he says, “You so happy, Mom? You so happy??”
Ha! Well, that’s what we get for throwing such a party every time he went potty.
But what a great reminder. What a great reminder to take joy even in the time of small things. What a reminder! Be joyful even when you’re wiping up poo…
That’s the thing about joy. Being encouraged by other people is so uplifting, but when you walk around looking annoyed, who wants to talk to you? Well, usually nobody.
So we must somehow find a source for joy that does not depend on other people. It’s great to derive joy from your friends, but until you have friends, joy has to be found elsewhere.
I’ve been searching the scriptures for joyful ideas.
We can take joy in the promises, provisions, and love of God.
Maybe find a place to sit outside or by a window and read God’s promises. Turn to the New Testament or Psalms when you are feeling down.
“I rejoice in your promise like one who finds great spoil.” –Psalm 119:162
“Shout for joy, O heavens; rejoice, O earth; burst into song, O mountains! For the Lord comforts his people and will have compassion on his afflicted ones.” –Isaiah 49:13
“Announce this with shouts of joy and proclaim it. Send it out to the ends of the earth; say,”The Lord has redeemed his servant Jacob.” They did not thirst when he led them through the deserts; he made water flow for them from the rock; he split the rock and water gushed out. “There is no peace,” says the Lord, “for the wicked.” –Isaiah 48:20-22
Remembering what God has already done keeps your faith and your joy strong.
“Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation. With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation.” –Isaiah 12:2-3
“In the past, he let all nations go their own way. Yet he has not left himself without testimony. He has shown kindness by giving you rain from heaven and crops in their season; he provides you with plenty of food and fills your hearts with joy.” –Acts 14:16-17
I wish I could send you all a clone of John David, my daily reminder to “just want you to be happy.” He’s so precious. It is hard to stay down when you share your day with one like him, but not all of you are up to taking care of a three-year-old right now. Take heart.
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. –John 16:33
It’s true. There was Jesus, who they killed for our transgressions, and by his wounds we are healed. We are forgiven, if we only ask to be. We are loved. He wants to take care of us.
“A man may have a hundred children and live many years; yet no matter how long he lives, if he cannot enjoy his prosperity…. I say that a stillborn child is better off than he.” –Ecclesiastes 6:3
Some people may roll their eyes at the need for comfort and happiness, but I think that it’s important to try. As John David says, “I just want you be happy!!”
Thank you all so much for following my blog. It is a great encouragement to know that I have people, no matter how many times I move, I have people right here. Thank you!! You are a blessing to me. Have a joy-filled week!
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What a sweet little boy! You’re making my heart melt over here. Our girls are pretty grumpy in the mornings, so it’s often hard to get the day off to the right start. Maybe I should be their John David? 😀 Thanks for joining us at the #happynowlinkup!
Hi I found you on the happy now linkup. Your little guy sounds super cute but I hope he isn’t worrying himself silly about your happiness.:(
Don’t worry. I can assure you he’s a perfectly happy 3-year-old with a healthy dose of empathy. I wish more people had it.
Your boy sounds so sweet and is already full of empathy. You’re doing a great job! : )
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Great Post! I love your style of writing, and you little guy is the sweetest. Reminds me of my own little boy that gets upset or teary-eyed when I’m upset.
My son always gets teary-eyed whenever I’m crying.
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I remember Scarlet going through a major “are you happy” period as a toddler. It was endearing for awhile. You’d say anything at all and she’d say, “Yes.. but.. are you happy??”
I used to write blog posts about it too!
Ha!! That’s awesome. It feels like having my personal cheerleader.
Your sweet little guy. Thanks my friend for writing this I needed a good reminder about happiness. We had a rough weekend and happiness is not something that is in large supply around here.
I’m so sorry to hear that! And I hope everyone is okay. Now I’m worried about your mom. I will be praying for y’all.